How to keep your divorce amicable
Most conflict in divorce comes from money, children and communication, not from the divorce application itself. Separating those three things keeps the process calm.
CalmSplit gives you one clear path for the divorce for £159 per person, so the paperwork never becomes the argument.
- Deal with the divorce, finances and children as separate tracks
- Agree how and when you will communicate
- Write down what you agree, then have it made into an order
One-off CalmSplit fee. HMCTS court fees are paid separately to the court.
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See how it worksSix habits that keep things calm
- Decide the outcome you want, not the outcome that punishes
- Use email or a shared app for arrangements instead of late-night messages
- Share financial information early and fully
- Avoid discussing the divorce in front of children
- Take advice separately rather than negotiating from rumours
- Agree deadlines so neither person feels rushed or stalled
When to use a mediator
If you agree on the divorce but not the money or the children, a mediator is usually faster and cheaper than court. Mediation runs alongside the divorce, which continues on its own timetable.
Recording what you agree
Verbal agreements are not binding. A financial consent order approved by the court makes your agreement enforceable and can include a clean break.
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