Divorce doesn't have to become a battle
An amicable divorce is mostly a matter of process, not personality. Remove blame from the paperwork, separate the divorce from the money, agree a small number of practical decisions, and keep everything in writing.
CalmSplit is designed around that. Start independently, keep things organised, and involve your spouse when you are ready. £159 one-off, per person.
- No-fault law means nobody has to be blamed
- Start on your own; collaboration is optional
- Written agreements prevent repeated arguments
One-off CalmSplit fee. HMCTS court fees are paid separately to the court.
Check suitabilityStart independently. Involve your spouse when you are ready.
See how it worksSix practical steps
- Agree that the divorce paperwork will be no-fault and factual
- Separate the three issues: the divorce, the money, and the children
- Deal with one issue at a time rather than negotiating everything at once
- Put agreements in writing, even the small ones
- Use mediation early if a single issue keeps stalling
- Record the financial settlement in a consent order so it is final
Why starting on your own can help
Waiting for both people to be ready at the same moment is one of the main reasons divorces drag on for years. Beginning independently means progress does not depend on a difficult conversation happening first.
Keeping children out of the middle
Arrangements for children are handled separately from the divorce. A written parenting plan gives both households the same reference point, which reduces the number of conversations that can turn into arguments.
What it costs to do it calmly
£159 per person as a one-off CalmSplit fee, with the HMCTS court fee paid separately. Optional extras include a consent order and an independent solicitor review through our referral partner.