Children cope best when the adults are calm, consistent and predictable. What they remember is not the announcement, it is whether life kept working afterwards.
Three messages
- This is not your fault.
- We both love you and we both stay your parents.
- Here is what happens next, in practical terms.
Practical planning
- Tell them together if you can, and agree the words in advance.
- Choose a time when there is space afterwards, not just before school.
- Give concrete detail about where they will sleep and when they see each parent.
- Tell the school so they can watch for changes.
This article is general information about the law of England and Wales, not legal advice. For advice on your situation, speak to a solicitor.