Is CalmSplit suitable for this?

Often yes for the main application, but check suitability first, as additional applications may be needed.

Can I use a tracing agent?

Yes. Courts expect to see reasonable efforts, and a tracing report helps demonstrate that.

Divorce when you don't know where your spouse is

Written by CalmSplit Editorial TeamReviewed by Ramani GillLast reviewed 13 August 2026England & Wales

Not knowing where your spouse lives does not prevent a divorce. The court can allow the application to be served in another way, or in some cases dispense with service altogether, once you show you have made genuine efforts to find them.

CalmSplit checks whether your situation is suitable for the self-help route for free, and prepares your divorce application for a one-off £159.

Reasonable attempts to trace your spouse must be shown
Alternative service can include email or social media, with permission
Dispensing with service is possible in limited cases

CalmSplit fee

£159one-off, per person

One-off CalmSplit fee. HMCTS court fees are paid separately to the court.

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Step one: show you have tried

Last known address, employer and family contacts
Email addresses, phone numbers and social media accounts
Electoral roll and credit reference tracing agents
Keep a dated record of every attempt

Step two: ask the court for a different route

You can apply for service by an alternative method, for example to an email address or via a relative, or for deemed service where you can show the papers reached them. These are additional court applications with their own fees.

Step three: dispensing with service

If nothing works, the court may allow the divorce to proceed without service. This is not automatic and requires evidence of thorough attempts to trace your spouse.

Frequently asked questions

Usually several weeks or months, depending on the extra applications required.

Related CalmSplit pages

Lost contact with your spouseWhat extra steps apply Spouse ignores papersDeemed service Sole divorce applicationApplying alone

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