What if my spouse ignores the divorce papers?

Written by CalmSplit Editorial TeamReviewed by Ramani GillLast reviewed 13 August 2026England & Wales

Ignoring the papers does not stop the divorce. It creates a delay while you prove service, after which the court can allow the divorce to continue without your spouse taking part.

CalmSplit prepares your application for a one-off £159 and explains, in plain English, the options available if your spouse does not respond.

  • Non-response causes delay, not a dead end
  • Bailiff, deemed and alternative service are all available
  • Each extra application carries its own HMCTS fee
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The acknowledgement of service

After the application is issued, your spouse is sent a copy and asked to acknowledge it, usually within 14 days. If they do not, the case pauses until service is established another way.

Your options

  • Court bailiff service, where a bailiff hands the papers over personally
  • Process server, a private alternative to the bailiff
  • Deemed service, where you can prove the papers reached them
  • Alternative service by email, message or via a third party, with permission

After service is proved

The divorce proceeds through the Conditional Order and Final Order in the normal way. Your spouse's participation is not required.

Frequently asked questions

Usually you act once the acknowledgement deadline has passed, typically 14 days after service.

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