Divorce in your 40s

Written by CalmSplit Editorial TeamReviewed by Ramani GillLast reviewed 13 August 2026England & Wales

Divorce in your 40s usually means juggling three things at once: children still at home, a mortgage that has to work for two households, and pensions that are only part built.

CalmSplit deals with the divorce itself for a one-off £159, so you can give your attention to the arrangements that follow.

  • Housing the children is usually the first priority
  • Mortgage capacity, not just equity, drives the options
  • Pensions are easy to overlook at this age and often should not be
CalmSplit fee
£159one-off, per person

One-off CalmSplit fee. HMCTS court fees are paid separately to the court.

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If you have decided to end your marriage, the application itself can be prepared online. Start free, £159 one-off when you are ready.

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What to sort in what order

  • Interim arrangements for the children and the bills
  • Whether the home can be retained by either of you
  • A full list of pensions with current values
  • Child maintenance through the CMS calculator
  • Then a financial order to record the agreement

Careers and earning capacity

One of you may have reduced hours for childcare. That difference in earning capacity is a recognised factor in financial discussions and may support maintenance for a period.

The divorce part is the simple part

The application takes under an hour of your time with CalmSplit, and the statutory timetable runs in the background while you sort everything else.

Frequently asked questions

That is a personal decision. Where you separate, stable routines matter more than the household structure.

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See if CalmSplit suits you

If you have decided to end your marriage, the application itself can be prepared online. Start free, £159 one-off when you are ready.

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