Looking after your mental health during divorce

Why divorce ranks among life's most stressful events, and practical ways to reduce the load while it runs.

Updated 19 August 2026·5 min read
Written by CalmSplit Editorial TeamReviewed by Ramani GillLast reviewed 19 August 2026England & Wales

Divorce combines grief, money worry, admin and often housing upheaval. Feeling overwhelmed is a normal response, not a weakness.

What helps

  • Break the process into small tasks with deadlines instead of holding it all at once.
  • Set boundaries on when you deal with divorce messages, rather than all evening.
  • Keep one place for documents so you are not searching under pressure.
  • Tell your GP if sleep or mood is badly affected.
  • Use a counsellor or a support group, which is cheaper than using a solicitor as a therapist.

This article is general information about the law of England and Wales, not legal advice. For advice on your situation, speak to a solicitor.

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Should I delay the divorce until I feel better? ▼

Sometimes, but uncertainty has its own cost. Starting the paperwork often reduces anxiety.

Where can I get free support? ▼

Samaritans on 116 123 is free 24 hours a day, and Relate offers counselling for separating couples.

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